Take it, Elizabeth ...
During this ‘trying to get published adventure’ I spent quite a bit of time cheering on and being cheered on by other writer friends ( and of course by my husband, who I must add has recently asked to be included in the edit process and I am now imagining all the poignant places he’ll want to add some fight/sex scenes and spandex bikini wardrobe changes…but that’s a topic for another time…)
For today, as I closed an email from a friend who offered up all the love and support a wavering wannabe could ask for, I decided it was only right to give back. So this is a post for the aspiring writers.
Now, I know not everybody in the world wants to get a book published, but for the half of the world that does, here's a thought...
Getting an agent or an editor is like dating. You shower and dress pretty for each date. But not every date ends in a score. Sure, some have more luck than others and their every date becomes a sure thing, but they are the exception, not the rule.
For the rest of us? Plan to put your party shoes on and dance till your feet blister and you think your shoes just might wear out...then you may be getting close to that magical moment when the stars align and love strikes.
Getting an agent or an editor is like dating. You shower and dress pretty for each date. But not every date ends in a score. Sure, some have more luck than others and their every date becomes a sure thing, but they are the exception, not the rule.
For the rest of us? Plan to put your party shoes on and dance till your feet blister and you think your shoes just might wear out...then you may be getting close to that magical moment when the stars align and love strikes.
What to do until then?
- Enjoy each date. There's something to learn from each one...even the toughest 'don’t call me’s, I’ll call you’s' teach you something.
- Respect your date. Just because they didn't show the love doesn't make them an idiot. Follow up hate mail will only flag you as the idiot that you are.
- Don't make every date a blind date. Find out a little something before you ask them out. Do they share the same interests? Like the same kind of books? Why waste your time and sensitivities on people who aren't even your type?
- Find a writer buddy. You'll need a shoulder to cry on, preferably one who understands that a 'personal rejection' is something to be brag about. (And who can be trusted better than a friend to let you know you have spinach in your teeth before you head out of the house?)
- Always remember, your first love is rarely your true love. Keep creating while you’re planning other dates~you don't have the luxury of wallowing in the past or in a single work.
I know you've heard it all before but I’ll bore you with it again…
If at first you don’t succeed, then write, write again.
Cause as long as the band is playing....then we shall dance!
Chin up, fingers cramped, and God will bless. :)
About the book
Jo Leigh Harper comes from a long line of trouble-making, white trash stock.
Tanner Coulter comes from a longer line of wealth-creating, blue blood stock.
Jo graduated college top of her class, moving toward a future full of possibilities.
Tanner dropped out of college, trading a law degree for drinking games and one night stands.
A family crisis
throws the rich party boy and the poor genius girl together. The attraction is
immediate, though neither one is a heart-in-the-sand-drawing believer in true
love. But as the summer sun heats up along the shores of the Outer Banks, so
does the connection between them. Maybe, just maybe, they can win at love by
defying reason.
***If you're only looking for a clean/sweet romance, this book may not be for you.
***If you're only looking for a clean/sweet romance, this book may not be for you.
About the Author
Elizabeth
is a multi-published author of books for people who are believers in happily-ever-
after, true love, and stories with a bit of fun and twists with their plots.
The mother of four young men, she tackles laundry daily and is the keeper of
the kitchen. She lives along the shores of the Ohio River in West Virginia, but
dreams daily of the beach.
Thanks for having me over Donna!! What a festive place you have here :)
ReplyDeleteYeah, Elizabeth!
ReplyDeleteFollow up with hate and you'll find that spreads and not in your favor. This is not a business for negative people, that's for sure.
It's a small world...and you will reap what you sow eventually.
DeleteDamn, I have a hard enough time dating normally, now I have to follow more rules? Maybe I'll just get a dog lol
ReplyDeleteYou can do a no rules dating. I'm sure it works for the creative minded.
DeleteWhat a clever comparison to describe the hunt-for-an-agent/publisher process. Your positive attitude is spot on. No point in getting sour when one meant for you may just be around the corner. Good luck with finding the agent/publisher of your dreams.
ReplyDeleteThanks! I don't think I'd have survived long without at least trying to be positive.
DeleteI dated just 10 years ago, so I can confirm they are VERY similar. You have to find that right match on both sides--the right publisher for you, the right readers for your work, etc.
ReplyDeleteYep, I think meshing personalities is very important for success.
Delete"If your looking for a clean/sweet romance, this book may bot be for you."n Ha, ha, ha! I love it.
ReplyDeleteElizabeth gives some great advice. I'm currently working very hard on edits and trying to get my story ready for the world. But, YIKES! equating it to dating. I have been out of that market for a long, long time. Not sure I even know what it would be like. But still, her reasoning is valid and makes a lot of sense.
Thanks!
Nope. Doesn't quite qualify as sweet or clean.
DeleteWould it make you feel better if I said it was like riding a bicycle? (Though I don't really have a clue. I've been out of the dating scene for 20 some years.)
Great analogy. I would add putting your best foot forward. I wouldn't show up on a first date wearing sloppy clothes. Today I sent my first ever two queries. I made sure to quadruple and quintuple check them before hitting send. Thanks for the encouraging article, Elizabeth.
ReplyDeleteYou're so very right, Jerry! I have no doubt you'll do well. You have all the talent, wisdom, and consideration you need. Best of luck with the queries!
DeleteBut then again, I do find that some of the writers should stop writing :) You know... the Twilight and Shades of Gray ones :)
ReplyDeleteThis is a beautiful blog! Elizabeth, I love how you wove the "dating" and arduous challenge of finding an agent together. Somehow the comparisons make the later not seem so daunting! Great post!
ReplyDeleteA wonderful post on publishing. I can totally relate. I look forward to reading my copy of Defying Reason.
ReplyDeleteI love the dating comparisons. Nice work, Elizabeth! :)
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